Women expect themselves to look naturally beautiful, slim, be good at everything (especially motherhood), and to seem to achieve all these effortlessly. While shame affects both genders equally, social-cultural expectations create different shame triggers and responses for men vs women: These are the 4 key elements of shame resilience: We can’t avoid or remove shame from our lives, but we can become more resilient to it. In our full book summary, we explain the difference between shame and related concepts like guilt, humiliation and embarrassment – in a nutshell, shame is the most harmful because we see the flaw as a part of who we are. All of us experience shame, everyone is afraid to talk about it, and our silence only gives it even more power. Shame is the agonizing feeling that we’re flawed and hence unworthy of love and belonging. When you feel you’re good enough regardless of what you do (or don’t do), you’ll dare to engage despite uncertainty and emotional risks. When you take a closer look at these concepts, you’d realize that the opposite of scarcity is not abundance, but being “enough”. You can get more details on each of these elements in our full Daring Greatly summary ( full 12-page summary here). Many of our deepest insecurities involve being not smart enough, not loveable enough, not successful enough, not slim enough, etc.ĭr Brene Brown explains the 3 components of scarcity (shame, comparison, and disengagement), as well as 5 myths about vulnerability. We long for connection and belonging, yet we’re afraid of being unworthy if we don’t live up to a standard or ideal. We’re constantly measuring and comparing what we have, against what we want, what we don’t have, what others have, or even how things used to be. Most of us live in cultures of scarcity or “never enough”. We’ve consolidated the ideas into 4 parts, and here’s a quick overview. 
“Daring greatly” is about embracing vulnerability and imperfection, to live wholeheartedly and engage courageously. Having worked and researched widely about human connection, Dr Brené Brown found that vulnerability is one of the most powerful explanations for human behaviours.
book summary bundle in pdf/mp3 infographic, text and audio formats! In this Daring Greatly summary, you’ll get an overview of these key ideas.ĭo also check out our book summary bundle. Based on 12 years of research, Dr Brene Brown explains the concept of vulnerability, and how embracing it can change how we live, love, lead and interact with others, to bring wholehearted living and fulfilling connections. We try to hide our vulnerabilities, only to create a greater disconnect with our families, communities, and work.
Yet, we fear rejection and are afraid we’re not good enough. As human beings, we have a fundamental need for connection, love, and belonging.
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